I am sorry, I just feel very demoralised because I am not an ugly woman, I. always try to make an effort to look nice and I tried to compromise over this, thinking he'd get tired of all the pretend stuff and I tried to see both sides and be a good companion, but in the end he had to choose and he chose her over me because she was better than me. I have had counseling because it has damaged my self esteem, I am still trying to feel good about myself but to be honest I'm not aiming for another relationship because men are shallow and selfish, you try to let them have their cake and eat it and they betray you. I don't want to have it flung in my face again and I'm afraid pretty much all men go for a trophy woman in the end, I can't go through this again with somebody else as long as the internet exists they will all end up doing it.
Thank you for your advise, I appreciate it.
I am still having doubts that this was really a scam though and not true love, it looked like true love to me but I'm confused.