recovery and reassurance

[liselore1977]

I will do... I have been so stupid to use the company phone but if I receive another call I will ask to change the number trying to give an excuse.... I feel incredibly stupid

[nanaki626]

Looking for a little reassurance here, I guess. Been a little over two months since I got scammed and everything has been okay. Turned my social media stuff back on a few weeks ago and nothing odd or unusual there (outside of the normal odd things my friends post) and things seem to be okay, but my anxiety has kicked in extra hard over the past few weeks and have found myself lying in bed unable to sleep most nights just worried out of mind that something will still happen from this, just the uncertainty of whether or the scammer bothered to keep or delete the video of me has me just freaking out.
Logically I know this is ridiculous and that I am problem in the clear at this point and I should just move on and no worry about it, but I've found it really hard to just let it go entirely. Anyone have any advice on how to get past this worry or can just tell me that I am freaking myself out over nothing?

[SlapHappy]

Turned my social media stuff back on a few weeks ago

If you did not reuse the same FB you should be okay. If not, make a brand new FB account using a brand new email address. Also, do the same for all your social accounts. Change your phone number. If he cannot easily find you, nothing to worry about.
There are a lot or more important things to worry about, like wearing your seatbelt, not using your cellphone while driving, looking both ways before crossing the street....

[nanaki626]

...I'M SUPPOSED TO LOOK BOTH WAYS!!!! Mind = Blown.

Yeah, changed up my social media stuff, and even before then I was almost impossible to find on there, and was never contacted through them, was through a dating site profile I don't use anymore. I know its just my anxiety rearing up, an issue I had long before this happened, been looking into therapy. Was just looking for some words outside my own to let me know that things were gonna be okay. Which I got, and some amusing life advice as well, so thanks for that!

[dk138]

I'm at about a year without any contact. I still feel a lot of the same anxieties, just knowing that it's out there. Also it's depressing to read some of the threads in here that show the same scammer active for 5+ years - there's really no stopping them, the police won't do anything, you just have to hope that they move on. After a long period of depression and loneliness, I'm back on online dating, so I still check here from time to time. Not that I will ever, ever get into that kind of mess again, but I like to see what the new trends in scamming are so I can report it when I see it. I do have this (hopefully irrational) fear that the scammer will see me on an app, remember me, and restart the harassment. I was one of the extreme cases where they actually messaged some contacts of mine, it really sucked.

[SlapHappy]

You should read our romance scams topics to help identify romance scammers. They are the worst of the worst scammers on the planet.