This topic is for posts made in the "closure" topic or some other place where they do not belong and were moved here.
recovery and reassurance
recovery and reassurance topic is NOT to be used for first time posters asking questions on what to do if blackmail scammed, nor to ask "Whatif??!!" questions already covered on the site.
It is a topic about how to recover from the scam ONLY.
All first time blackmailed visitors need to go to the main topic. http://blackmailscams.com.
If it is not too much to ask, READ and then DO ALL THE STEPS, then READ FIRST WHY IT WORKS ON THE FORUM.
99.99% of your questions are answered at the above link and also in the readme first topic here:
Online blackmail. Read this first.
http://www.scamsurvivors.com/forum/view ... f=20&t=580
If English is not your first language, I suggest using Google Translate to read the links posted here.
Or, if you speak Arabic, Portuguese, Spanish, Italian, or French, there is an older condensed version of the "Online blackmail. Read this first." here: Online blackmail. Read this first - translated. http://scamsurvivors.com/forum/viewtopi ... =20&t=8267
If you are looking for answers not found there, I suggest that you use the main link, http://www.scamsurvivors.com/forum/view ... f=20&t=580 and Goggle Translate to find your answer.
If you feel compelled to ask the question anyway, post it here. Note: Your question may not be answered by staff in this topic. However, I invite any survivor who has gone through the entire process to answer any new posts from new members.
Do not do it in Closure or it will be dumped here and may be unanswered by staff if it is already answered in the two topics above.
All the questions in the below posts are already answered, many multiple times on our forum.
The answers can be found in our Announcements Section, page 3 of the blackmail advice steps after filling the form, or the "Stickies." Stickies are the top topics having "light bulb" symbols in front of them.
Please save the small staff some time. Reading is not a crime.
Read first, DO ALL, Read more, then ask only when necessary.
Relax. You have done all that you can do, didn't you? That was the second step, DO ALL. << You didn't? Go back and finish.
Ok now, Think it over first with a nice bubbling hot cup of coffee.
Want some quick relief from the whatifs?? and want to know why the steps in blackmailscams.com work and why each one is important?
Check out these three links to help you deal with the aftermath of the scam and to understand it better.
How Blackmail Scammers Think and Operate The Scam
http://www.scamsurvivors.com/forum/view ... 110#p52656
Interview with a blackmail survivor, a member of our website:
http://scamsurvivors.com/podcasts/ Click Playlist button in the upper left of the player. Scroll to podcast #11.
Interview with New Light, a blackmail survivor:
http://scamsurvivors.com/podcasts/ Click Playlist button in the upper left of the player. Scroll to podcast #16.
After your scammer is long gone and you have stopped Googling yourself manually every day for non-existent videos, feel free to let other members know how you dealt with the aftermath in the Closure topic.
But before doing that, make sure that you are past this Whatif? and have totally rejected the fantasy...
Will my video suddenly appear out of the blue months or years later?
I'll answer your question this way. These things have a higher chance of occurring than your scammer returning, and I expect you also mean you are thinking that the scammer has your video and will post it, and your life will be miserable until eternity becomes nothing.....
1. You will be eaten by a land shark while walking arm and arm with Lady Gaga.
2. You will be struck by an asteroid, directly in the forehead, and nobody else will die but you.
3. The Irish will give up beer and whiskey completely, and nobody will drink in the entire country, EVER AGAIN.
To the webcam blackmailed for money survivors only:
If you entertain one more "what if?" question about your scam after reading all the links and listening to the two podcast links about blackmail posted above, you are hereby sentenced to listen to every ScamSurvivors podcast until you cheer up. Your scam pales in comparison to what others have suffered through, and they whine 1:1000th of the amount that you do.
====Now, a word from Wayne..... -SlapHappy.
A COMMENT FROM WAYNE ABOUT THIS WHY AND WHATIF??? WORLD
MAR 09 2015
YES, WE KNOW….
Yes, they recorded your video. That’s how the scam works.
Yes, they threatened to send it to everyone. Again, it’s how the scam works.
Yes, we have seen cases like this before. Thousands of them in fact. It’s very rare someone is able to tell us something new the scammer did.
Yes, they showed you a list of your friends and family from your Facebook profile. That’s part and parcel of the scam.
Yes, they threatened to post it if you blocked them.
Yes, we get that you’re afraid to block them just in case. It’s still essential you do it.
Yes, we’ve seen cases like yours thousands of times before. Believe me, we know exactly how this scam works.
Yes you can get the video removed if they do post it. In fact, Youtube usually removes them in less than 5 minutes when reported.
Yes, our steps really do work in over 99.95% of the cases we’ve dealt with.
Yes, you REALLY do have to deactivate Facebook for at least 4 weeks.
Yes, REALLY! Keep it closed.
Yes, it is essential you don’t “take a peep” in case the scammer has posted anything. We wouldn’t say it otherwise
Yes, they may try to contact you for a short while. Ignore them. They’ll go away.
Yes, paying them is a bad idea. They’ll just come back demanding more.
Yes, technically they could. However they don’t. That’s a cover all answer for the “what if” questions we get.
Yes, they will delete the video. It’s too risky to keep a hold of it.
Yes, you can contact the police about it. In fact, we’d always recommend you do.
Does that cover it?
Need more fast answers to common questions, still? Read these:
THE MOST COMMONLY ASKED QUESTIONS IN OUR LIVE HELP ROOM, AND THEIR ANSWERS.
http://scamsurvivors.com/forum/viewtopi ... =19#p86183
http://www.scamsurvivors.com/blog/the-m ... r-answers/
And please, for the Love of God, Give us a break with this.
Seriously, quit the "Did they post the video?" questions.
http://scamsurvivors.com/forum/viewtopi ... 20&t=39056
Now on to the moved posts.
firefly wrote:Thanks for sharing your experience here, NewLight.
We just show you the way, but you are the one doing the steps.
The life after a scam is always a new beginning, with yourself trying to find out what was wrong to put you in the situation to be scammed. Looking inside yourself helps you to decide who you want to be for real. Most of the victims become stronger after one experience like this one, being completely honest with themselves and accepting that the real life is different to the one we are dreaming about. Dream or nightmare, it will be over sooner or later. Important thing is that we all have a tomorrow and is up to us how we face it: as victims or as survivors.