by Yöperhonen » Sun Dec 21, 2014 9:38 am
I was scammed on July 16th this year. I posted my story almost immediately after the event but for some reason it got deleted from these pages. So anyway it did happen and all the guilt was there very strong. I'm part of a buddhist organisation and lead activities so a scam like this would go down really badly. Yes i did it and it was out of curiosity. It took me months to understand the process and this site helped. I even send the scammer 250 euros, before discovering this site. You know I was so naive before the scam, didn't even know about this problem. Didn't know this can heppen to you.
My recovery has been the process of just getting on with life. I meditate regularly which helps. I reflect on life and the impermanence of all things including fear and grief, this has helped too. My friends saw that something was going on with me when this scam happened. The hard part has been that I haven't been able to confess to any of my friends to tell them about the scam because i still fear of a back-slash that my buddhist friends would disown me or i would be ostrasized in sme way. This fear s less now but it still grips me. And i even fear my girlfriend would leave me. I have managed to get some idea why the scammers do what they do. They often, apparetly come from very poor backgrounds, maybe i can have some compassion towards the scammers even! What they do is totally wrong, of course, it's totally unethical activity and criminal.
I have do magic bullet to offer to the victims. I'm grateful to this site and the work the people do here. Keep brightening people's lives. Thank you for your work!
I think it would be better if the scam victim , like myself, could be totally honest and open to his friends about what happened? But this seems hard. maybe one day? much warmth to all!