Closure from a scam:
I once fell hook line and sinker for a well executed translation scam.
Nothing really sinister beyond leading me on to pay translation fees re ladies unaware that the agency was ripping off their identity.
Later, by complete chance, I did meet one innocent lady whose ID was hijacked as bait by these scammers.
We met in a completely different context, where there was no profit to be had.
We Skyped several times and became quite good pals, although it was never really a romantic connection.
She was as mystified as me about the folks that had hijacked her details.
Although, as a native of Kiev, she was not so surprised!!
After learning the ropes, I became quite expert at due diligence and soon learned to distinguish the scam from the real.
But one situation still haunts me - where I fear that maybe I threw the baby out with the bathwater.
I met a lady doctor, of mature years like myself.
We corresponded in detail and length over several months.
She answered ALL my questions...which included some quite personal topics like contraception
There was a meeting of the minds, when the earth moved for me definitely, and so she said, for her too.
So, we arranged a visit.
We planned all the logistics together, and she reserved an apartment for our tryst.
I booked and paid for my return air ticket.
She arranged to meet me at the airport with transport to our destination.
She never demanded a single kopek from me.
But, losing trust in the scammy website where we met - I cancelled everything.
To this day - my gut tells me that I threw away the chance of a lifetime...
Is this scammee denial syndrome? (SDS)