by Sunnybear » Tue Jan 29, 2013 1:12 am
Hi. I have spent a lot of time reading your posts, and now feel compelled to share my story....which is still ongoing, and I'm not sure what to do.
My scammer contacted me on a dating website, and I fell for his charms and promises of undying love very quickly. Though, I did keep an open mind, and was always aware that he could be a scammer. He promised me the world, and also sent me a copy of his flight itinerary for him coming to visit me.
After around a month of contact, including daily phone calls, and emails, and around a week before he was due to arrive here, he called me one night to say he needed some financial help from me, by way of me sending him $2000 via Western Union to his 'agent'. I spat the dummy, got very upset, and told him he will never get any money from me, and asked him not to call me again. He didn't call, but continued to send emails to me, apologising profusely, and telling me had fallen deeply in love with me. I ignored him for a few days, but my heartbreak was so awful that I ended up emailing him, asking why he did what he did to me, and I accused him of being a scammer. He said that he was in genuine need of help. He also admitted to me that he was in fact a black man from Africa, and he told me his real name, and he begged me to get on Webcam with him, via Yahoo, so that I could see him for who he was. He told me a lot of stories, none of which I believe, but out of curiosity, I have been in contact with him via cam a few times. He is, actually, who he says he is, and we have spoken for hours, but I am still aware that he is a scammer. He has tried to get me to take my clothes off on cam, but I will not do that, though I have previously emailed him a photo of my 'top half', which I am now kicking myself about. He took his own clothes off on cam and has been very lewd in front of me. I was sickened, and am now trying to stop contact with him. I have viewed his real Facebook page, which has his real photos on there with lots of friends, and also photos of a woman I believe may be his girlfriend. And when I google his real name, there are several entries for him, none of which he would be proud of.
I don't know why he has given me his real name, nor why he has revealed his true identity to me on cam, I think he thinks I have believed his stories, and I think he is trying to get me to take my clothes off on cam so that he can blackmail me maybe. He is still professing his undying love for me, and says that he is going to come and visit me soon.
I do not believe a word he says, and thought I could have some fun with him, ie, by going along with him, but its not fun anymore, and I'm worried that if I stop contact with him, that things will turn nasty. I am no longer in love with him, and can see him now for the evil person that he is.
My Facebook name is not my real name, so he can't do anything to me on Facebook, and he does not have my address, all he has is my phone numbers, my email address, and a few photos of me and my daughter, and also that other photo that I now regret sending to him.
I think I need some moral support, and can see that the staff on this forum are so kind and helpful. Please can you offer me some guidance here? I don't want to post his details on here yet, as I'm worried that he will read it and get nasty.
Thank you so much.
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firefly on Mon Feb 04, 2013 12:16 am, edited 1 time in total.
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