by LessonLearned » Mon Apr 13, 2015 4:20 pm
It has been over one week since my scam encounter, and just about one week since my last contact. This was quite the experience. The absolute fear that was instilled in me for several days after was a feeling I have never experienced, to be so powerless over yourself. Just as most of us, I was brought to Skype by an attractive girl who recorded me. Absolute horror came over me when I saw the video replayed. I paid right away, and was immediately asked for another payment. The money hurt, but it really isn't about the money. This situation was entirely self created, as I put myself out there to be taken advantage of. This took me two days to really decide how I can deal with this. It wasn't until I came to, and found this site that I realized what I was dealing with. I had already deleted my fb, but after reading here, I deleted IG as well. There were multiple threats and deadlines, but those came and went. True to his word, he did post the video. A fake fb account was created, using my last name as my first, and so on. Luckily, I told a close friend about it and he found it right away. (this is the only downfall I found to deleting your fb account, but still definitely do it) I notified fb of someone using my information and inappropriate content. To the credit of fb, the site was deleted within minutes. As of now, there has been no other posting, to my knowledge. I pray the words I have found on this site are true, and that he/she/it will go away for good. It was somewhat funny when I cut contact, as they kept reaching out with an additional phone number pleading with me to respond. As soon as you are no longer afraid, they realize they have nothing. I made myself get into my routine after reading this, with a trip to the gym and a drink with some friends. This helped a lot. The more you internalize and live in the fear, the more they have control.
The previous words are right on, it makes no sense for them to continue on after you cut them out of your life. What good is it for them to upload the video on many sources, or to individually email each of your fb friends. That would take quite the effort. Plus, the chances of someone opening a video from a stranger on fb is low. As this was going on, I remember looking at the text on the second day and saw that I was told that this would destroy my life. The more clear headed I got, I thought, no it wont. It will be embarrassing, I will have a few jokes at my expense. But after weeks, no one will remember. This is when I realized that everything being told to me was bullshit. Take your life back, don't let anyone hold a small mistake in your life against you like this. No one should be left to feel this powerless and helpless.
I really want to thank the administrators of this site. This was the a horrible personal experience, and I read through this site numerous times to find comfort when I had nowhere else to turn. This site was a blessing I will not soon forget. Also, thank you to everyone who posted on here. It was all these words, collectively, that truly helped in dealing with this situation. If I can help anyone, it would be, absolutely and unequivocally, DO NOT PAY. There is zero incentive for them not to ask you for additional money. There is zero incentive for them to delete the video. There is zero incentive for them to do anything for you or honor their word to you. It is sales 101, you have to ask to make the sale. They have to ask for more money. Listen to the advice on here, cut off contact and follow the scam bible on how to deal with these crazies. It will work. Take your life back.
