by Ari » Mon May 05, 2014 10:20 pm
Wow Slap, thank you so much for those essays, they're helping us so much.
So well, i was blackmailed like 7 months ago, everything was like other people here. We ended on Skype, where the video was recorded. He posted a list of my face book friends (close ones) and told me that he'll send the video to them, and if I wanted the video deleted "we can talk about this", i insta-blocked him on Skype and turned everything on private in face book. I was SCARED, extremely scared in that moment, but nothing happened.
I talked with those friends of mine he listed and talked to them, explaining my situation, all of them understand. This is not the most terrible thing that can happen to you, so talk about this with close friends/family member, you'll feel so much better and gain perspective. I checked in google for my name, and youtube and nothing has posted, i've never seen the video of mine (so maybe it wasn't even recorded) and he never said a price to send him cause i blocked him before he can.
The first days i was talking with friends if they received something and nothing, checked again in websites, and still nothing so I thought I was clear. The problem is that i found this website like 2 months ago, and i see that one of the most important things to prevent the scammer finds you again is deactivating your face book for 2 weeks, and I never did it, thought was enough by turning everything private, changing my name, URL, etc. Don't know if this is so important after 7 months... hope not.
I'm feeling greater everyday as time passes by, this is it, it just take TIME to restore you. If you've been blackmailed and reading this, first of all is that i'm sorry, but you'll become stronger, so much stronger, get off that "WHAT IF...?" in your head cause NOTHING will happen. They just liars, searching for fast money, and if they find a victim that doesn't cooperate what will be the meaning of sending the record (if it even exist) to your friends? NO SENSE, they'll get their face book account banned and also the youtube account, yes they can make another, but why? just why? So forget about it.
In my days here i learned alot like in those like 5k cases they got here, only like 3 of them has their video sent to friends, and guess how many friends? 1 or 2. So even in THE WORST CASEEE!! (we're talking about 0,05%) they CAN'T ruin your life because it's YOU who have the control over it. Just learn about, be a better person everyday, help others, become a SURVIVOR!! because you falled, but you'll rise up again! Trust me, I know what i'm talking about, I've passed throught it too, feels like "Oh no I'm SO stupid..." but you aren't, you made a mistake, like EVERYBODY has made in their lifes, so keep calm mates. Even if we never know, you have a friend here, just by reading this I'm with you, and hope that my experience helps you feel at least, a bit better. Hold on!!
Finally, I wanted to say thank you to Firefly, Slaphappy, and special thanks to Wayne for their help in the chat room and for running this forum. Also, thanks to the forums moderators, even if we never had contact, they helped me. And finally but not least to ALL of the old survivors that posted their experience and thoughts here, just by doing that, you're helping so much people to go through their darkness.
Good bye and have luck! And remember, you're not alone.
Ari