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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby SlapHappy » Tue Jun 16, 2015 10:55 pm

LearnedTheHardWay,

Thanks for sharing your thoughts here to help others.
The fantasy fear will diminish over time. Spend more time with friends off of the computer and get a few good laughs in. That will help you get back to your normal self. Do something you wanted to do last Summer, but didn't get to it.
Hang out where people are laughing; amusement parks, comedy show, music concert, the zoo, the beach. Smiles and laughing rubs off.

Having trouble laughing at home? Well, then if you have not yet listened to our podcasts, I'm sure that some or all of them will tickle your funnybone. After the usual interviews that most of them have in the first half (some are all scammer call specials,) we make phone calls to 419 African scammers, playing "FAKE VICTIMS" that have received a scam email from them. Our characters are weird, crazy, or otherwise kinda "odd." We talk to them doing off the cuff complete improv comedy on them, taking their scam that they are stuck on into our twisted, nutty scenarios. Too bad we cannot do the same thing to the blackmail scammers without hurting victims, or we would. :lol:
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby SlapHappy » Tue Jun 16, 2015 11:09 pm

Overcoming Fear

Maybe some of these quotes will help all survivors deal with it. More here: http:/ /www.brainyquote.com/quotes/topics/topic_fear.html

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
Franklin D. Roosevelt

Thinking will not overcome fear but action will.
W. Clement Stone

Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.
Dorothy Thompson

Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. Right now, today, we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of our loved ones.
Thich Nhat Hanh

Pick the day. Enjoy it - to the hilt. The day as it comes. People as they come... The past, I think, has helped me appreciate the present - and I don't want to spoil any of it by fretting about the future.
Audrey Hepburn


Does anyone want to share what helped them get past the fear, so they could move forward and not stay "stuck in the scam" that is long over? :?: :?:
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby Dell » Sat Jun 20, 2015 8:10 pm

I would like to write few words.
I really dont understand why some people are so affraid of scammer who didnt contact them anymore, who didnt post anything like he said he would. Why are you affraid of someone who cant reach you anymore? Who isnt a threat anymore to you?
You know why? Because you are making your own fear deep inside. You cant let it go and you expect your scammer to get back for you. If you did all the steps and you havent heard from scammer for a while, he didnt publish anything about you like he said he would, maybe its time for you to let it go and go on with your life.
When you decide to put it all behind and leave it in a past like where it should be - your fear will fade away.
If you really have a need to write something about your scammer here all the time - don't.
Admins probably have all the info you provided about your scammer, you already told your story and what i've learned from my mistake - if you repeatedly talk about your scam to people, you can reflect your fear to the others.

I decided not to talk about my case anymore until it be thoroughly finished.

You all have to make that closure...peace!
I'm a true believer in karma. You get what you give, whether it's bad or good.
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby SlapHappy » Sun Jun 21, 2015 6:47 pm

Dell,

You are dead on, when you say, "When you decide to put it all behind..."

So, to all those victims who are hesitating to become survivors weeks or months after the scammer has left, it's time for a dose of Reality.

Say you were out taking a stroll and saw this:

Image

THAT is scary.

What if you saw this?

Image

THIS is not scary.
So why are you more afraid of a kitten?
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby LearnedTheHardWay » Tue Jun 23, 2015 2:13 pm

Thank you for the replies to my comment. I'd like to now add that I feel that I have now fully come to terms and accepted the scam that I fell victim to, but now I am no longer that victim; I am a survivor. For weeks I felt anxiety and fear which I would not wish upon anyone but I stress to anyone who is currently going through that, that this is completely normal and that with the help of this site and others around you in the real world you will overcome this. I discovered this site whilst feeling isolated, alone and helpless. However, whilst my time here has been relatively short, I feel like I am not only once again the person I was before the scam, but I feel stronger and smarter due to what's happened. Follow the advice laid out by the great people here and you will move on unharmed. I know at the time that may be hard to believe and fully accept, but it is the truth. I had put off telling any of my real life friends, but today I did that and it really does help. They will not judge you. In fact I was told today by one that he was proud to be a friend of someone who handled this issue and came out the other side a survivor. It will and does get better, no matter what little fear you have in the back of your head (and believe me I've had my fair few). Thank you to all at ScamSurvivors.
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby fightforit » Wed Jun 24, 2015 4:08 am

Today is the second day since I stop contacting the scammer, in the scammer's last words, he wanted me to send him money by 8AM this morning cause he can't wait for 3 days, (The time I lied to him that I can gather enough money) But right now is the end of the day and I don't think he posted my video to any of my friends or family members. The scammer claimed he would sell the footage to porn sites for money, which I think he was just lying. I am so thankful that I saw this site and knew there are survivors out here that are recovering and recovered. Hopefully I will get over this one day. Although I was not smart enough to not pay the scammer money at the first place, the money I spent taught me a life lesson and I will keep the receipt to remind me the mistakes that I made and learn from it. I hope my scammer has moved on and let me recover from this.
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby SlapHappy » Sat Jun 27, 2015 12:56 am

I will keep the receipt to remind me the mistakes that I made

Don't keep it to continuously beat yourself over the head with it.

I hope my scammer has moved on and let me recover from this.

Once you have broken all contact, YOU have the control over your life, not the scammer.
He also has no control over your recovery either. YOU DO.

The second you burn the receipt, and work on your recovery, the better. Do not wait for "permission" from him, or for the deactivation period to end. Start now.

Scars remind us of where we have been, but do not dictate our future.
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby SlapHappy » Sat Jun 27, 2015 1:34 am

It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird: it would be a jolly sight harder for it to learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And you cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad.
C. S. Lewis

Life is divided into three terms - that which was, which is, and which will be. Let us learn from the past to profit by the present, and from the present, to live better in the future.
William Wordsworth

Your present circumstances don't determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start.
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby SlapHappy » Sat Jun 27, 2015 11:30 pm

I received a PM today from a survivor, who is moving on with his life now. Those stories are the ones we all love to hear.
I also spent a long couple days with my son hiking and enjoying the mountains, who has recently been moving on from some recent troubles of his own, and progressing well.

So, I'll leave the PM'er and the rest of you this to to ponder. It seems to fit the situations we all seem to find ourselves in from time to time well.

To my young friends out there: Life can be great, but not when you can't see it. So, open your eyes to life: to see it in the vivid colors that God gave us as a precious gift to His children, to enjoy life to the fullest, and to make it count. Say yes to your life.
Nancy Reagan
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby ran_dumbGuy » Sat Jul 04, 2015 12:03 am

As soon as it happened I started praying. One of the first things I did was ask my roommate to pray for me and told him what happened. Going for a walk or jog will help you to de-stress as well. And as a Christian, listening to worship music helped give me some measure of peace. It was pretty scary.
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