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This section deals specifically with online romance scams. The images used by the scammers are stolen from innocent people, usually from their social media pages.

Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby Matt96 » Thu Jan 28, 2016 3:44 pm

Finally I'm at ease. I didn't pay the scammer any more even though I paid him the first time because I was scared out of my mind. People when these guys say these scammers will not post your video they mean it even when the scammers say they'd already posted it they didn't. I know this because I told my family and they were supportive. I'm not going to lie it wasn't easy telling them, but by doing it makes your anxiety go away at least it did for me. So far they said they haven't received anything on facebook despite the scammer saying he sent the pics and video already. My only regret is paying that bastard any money at all, but this experience has taught me the best way possible how to avoid any situation like this ever again.
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby IamSurvivor22 » Sun Jan 31, 2016 7:03 am

Hello everyone,

First just want to thank this site, it helped me a lot when it happen.
I was targeted 6 months ago, went on chatroulette, then skype, did somethins i regreat.
But i didnt pay, found this site, and followed all the steps.
I just want to say that 6 months later nothing happened to me.
The only thing i did extra is that i never got back on facebook, and it feels nice =)

Dont ever pay, follow the steps and you gonna be allright.
I had some dark thougths when it happen, just very happy that i found this site.

For the people that created this site, let me tell you something, dont ever quit

You have Saved lots of lifes

Thank you so much
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby SlapHappy » Mon Feb 01, 2016 6:39 pm

We won't quit as long as the Ad revenue and donations to the site continue.
Although our advice is 100% free here, the costs to run this site are not.
I hope some of you that were helped will consider pushing the Yellow PayPal Donation Button that is located on all of our pages and become a Supporter of our website. :)
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby kc365 » Tue Feb 02, 2016 10:49 pm

I have a question. My fiance just told me yesterday that he was approached to be scammed. He was contacted on fb which sent him to Skype and I guess the scammers has a video of him m***urbating (sounds like the sexploitation I read about on this site). He admitted to the video and said that it was about a year before he knew me right after he had lost a good job of 9 years and was extremely depressed. So the video supposedly happened 4 years ago... I don't even care that it happened, but what is burning me is when. We have been together for 3 years so I am wondering if an online scammers would even wait that long to act? I have had no other reason to suspect he would be cheating on me, but I can't seem to get passed the timeline and there have been times he has had problems where he didn't tell me until after the fact so I don't know what to believe right now. Does anyone have advice for this situation? Do videos like that get shifted around and used years later? I'm afraid that I reported the scammer's profile on fb because they were trying to contact me as well.
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby SlapHappy » Tue Feb 02, 2016 11:13 pm

I am wondering if an online scammers would even wait that long to act?
That depends on what kind of scammer scammed him, and what actions he took after the scam to protect himself from them finding him to continue to harrass him.
Scams for control, i.e. "catfishing" by friends or others doing it for "kicks" or e-whoring script kiddies will stick around and chase if the victim allows it.
Blackmail scammers doing it for money do not chase if the victim disappears online.
The videos in control cases may be saved, but not passed around very freely, rather kept for personal "collections." or shown to their e-whoring pals for "bragging rights."
Videos in scams for money are not kept very long at all, and not passed to others in the vast majority of cases.

As for "cheating on you," you'll have to decide if his actions with MEN behind the camera, abusing stolen video footage of innocent cam girls or others is "Cheating." We make no judgment there.

Read what we have here on the forum about the scam so you understand fully how some men (and women too) get caught in this type of scam. Here are some links to read. Listen to two men talk about the scam on our podcasts as well. It can be an embarrassing topic to discuss with wives, GFs, and family. Some have trouble talking about it, some never will, some will seek support from them as did the young guy in podcast 11.

You both may want to consider completing all the steps in the first topic below to protect yourselves and your friends from the scammer and changing all of your online profiles.

http://blackmailscams.com

Online blackmail. Read this first. http://www.scamsurvivors.com/forum/view ... f=20&t=580

The Dump - "Whatif?" Questions Have Answers Here
http://www.scamsurvivors.com/forum/view ... 20&t=35899

THE MOST COMMONLY ASKED QUESTIONS IN OUR LIVE HELP ROOM, AND THEIR ANSWERS.
http://www.scamsurvivors.com/blog/the-m ... r-answers/

Who´s behind the stolen pictures used for scams?
viewtopic.php?f=21&t=1861

How Blackmail Scammers Think and Operate The Scam
http://www.scamsurvivors.com/forum/view ... 110#p52656

Interview with a blackmail survivor, a member of our website:
http://scamsurvivors.com/podcasts/ Click Playlist button in the upper left of the player. Scroll to podcast #11.

Interview with New Light, a blackmail survivor:
http://scamsurvivors.com/podcasts/ Click Playlist button in the upper left of the player. Scroll to podcast #16.

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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby kc365 » Wed Feb 03, 2016 10:40 am

Thank you for the reply. I have calmed down somewhat now and finally spoke with him in person (we live about 45 mins apart so most convos are in text). He said after he calmed down, he finally remembered where the video came from: an ex-girlfriend who he broke up with because he found out she cheating and then she used it to break up his next relationship by saying it was recent. He has no idea how it got into the scammer's hands, but it did. He said he has nothing to hide from me and he didn't tell me about the video because it was a one time thing and thought it was an isolated incident from a jealous ex. I guess I will have to go by his actions on whether to believe him because right after the scammer contacted him, he called me to tell me what happened and then contacted the police. He's given me access to his email accounts and deactivated his facebook. We are just going to try to move on from this experience, but I was very hesitant because I used to be in a "relationship" with a sociopath (possible psychopath) who serial cheated on me (possibly with men and women), and bilked me out of loads of money, until my mental state was shot and credit state was shot. I finally willed myself out of that horrifying situation, only to be financially manipulated and later harrassed/threatened by my own best friend of 13 years. I moved away and started my life again and built myself back up, so to have a situation like this one come about, it hit me really hard and I just didn't know what to think or do. But I have to remember that he is nothing like the awful people I have in my past and that he had some awful people in his own past. I'm making sure that I get all the information about the scammer from him so that I can post it here. I checked the facebook profile to see if it was gone and a new one came up, so the f***ing scammer just moved on. I hope someday the person(s) are caught and get what they deserve.
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby SlapHappy » Wed Feb 03, 2016 11:35 am

If you do manage to get the details of the online scammer you can use http://blackmailscams.com to report them.
We will check the details and gather any other info we can find of theirs and post them.

We do not deal with real life ex-BF/GF or spouse revenge porn here, so do not post that person's details. Take them to the police. It seems he did that already.

Do not make any attempt to contact them, or to try to close the scammer's email accounts, chat accounts, Facebook, or any other online profiles of theirs. They must remain open as long as possible so that as many victims can find them as possible until the scammer changes them. Do not tell them you know they are a scammer or that you posted them here.
Reporting a Scammer's Profile or Email Address? Don't!
viewtopic.php?f=3&t=66948

We have a free pdf e-book about recovering from romance scams that may help you with your real-life past abusive relationships. Although the stories are about online scams, much about the "scammer's psychology" and how to deal with the fallout from contact with sociopaths is similar. We have also done many podcast interviews of romance scam victims that might be helpful too in your path to recovery from your own.
The free e-book can be downloaded here:
"The Scam Survivors' Handbook"
viewtopic.php?f=10&t=31

Moving on away from this experience is the right thing to do. The scammer does not deserve any more of your time, so drop him cold and don't look back.
If anyone asks you for money on the Internet they are always a scammer, 100% of the time.
Blackmail Scammed? Go here: https://www.scamsurvivors.com/blackmail/#/
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby Selwyn » Sat Feb 06, 2016 2:11 am

This forum has been great, whilst the initial scam hit me for six. I reported this on here about two weeks ago, but it it has been more than two weeks since my moment of weakness, and after my online chats on here and with my family, friends, police and even to my boss at work, I feel more confident and am moving on. This episode in my life has shown me that I am a lot stronger than I think. I would like to say thanks to the moderators on this forum an endless task, you are rock to many people 24/7 keep up the good work...
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby asdcs1414 » Tue Feb 09, 2016 11:43 am

Hi everyone...and sorry for my english cuz it sucks...

Almost 1 month ago I met a girl on chatroulette then went to skype...Guys u guess the story...I blackmailed with my facebook list...I didn't know here but thanks god I think I did the right things I guess...closed facebook closed skype , e-mail whatsapp viber even the snapchat...talked with my friends which are close to me and in my facebook friend list...they say the scammer didn't send them a link or a video...

I'm a student I didn't have a penny so didn't send a penny as this website says...

I cannot even remember the scammers's name also didn't took screenshots...sorry about cannot being helpful for you guys...

2 weeks ago I found this super uper duper helpful website and tryed to learn something wity my crappy english...

Made google alerts with my name...nothing happens...

my problem starts here if it happens?cannot think correct have to say the scammer have a video of me about gayly things which is more dangerous on normal sextortion blackmail...

I lost my self confident , cannot study cannot go to gym cannot do good things...All about I thinks is how stupid I am , if my girlfriend or family know this what happens...and off course no job after 20 year hard work on study...

all I do is staying at my bed and looking on the walls thinking these things and smoking...sleeping with pills...

Also I have seen the blackmail videos of ppl on pornhub so I'm not sure the google alert works very wel, the most blackmail videos on pornhub cannot even be found in google search or even own website search... (Bcz of low hits I think)
Alao I'm afraid of 4chan...

this possibilies eating my mind cannot even talk with girls , my mom calls I say I'm flu...My gf calls I say I'm flu...how could I take myself to this situation..dunno
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Re: recovery and reassurance

Unread postby SlapHappy » Tue Feb 09, 2016 1:08 pm

Blackmail scammers do not post to pornhub, nor do they waste time talking on 4chan, either. Everything the scammer told you they would do is a lie to get money fast before you realize it's a lie. They are long gone now.

Check out these four links to help you deal with the aftermath of the scam and to understand it better.

How Blackmail Scammers Think and Operate The Scam
viewtopic.php?f=2&t=4509&start=110#p52656

Interview with a blackmail survivor, a member of our website:
http://scamsurvivors.com/podcasts/ Click Playlist button in the upper left of the player. Scroll to podcast #11.

Interview with New Light, a blackmail survivor:
http://scamsurvivors.com/podcasts/ Click Playlist button in the upper left of the player. Scroll to podcast #16.

Read all 29 pages. Many victims give their own advice about how they got over it, and escaped the self-generated fear.
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