Everyone’s a scammer but me, I swear.

This is a typical line from a scammer email:


Basically, they don’t want you talking to any other scammer.  After all, if you send that scammer money, you won’t have any to send them.  We’ve even seen scammers put a list of “scammers” in their email, which are all names of real people scammers pretend to be.  They don’t like competition over there.  I mean, how dare another scammer get to their “rightful” money before they can?

One ring scams.

This is a particularly clever scam that doesn’t even need any human interaction.  Here’s how it works.  Your phone rings once, then hangs up.  When you check your last call, it gives a number you don’t recognise, so you call it.  At this point you’ve just connected to a premium rate number and being charged through the nose as you put up with some godawful muzak while you wait to speak to someone or listen to a prerecorded message.  Every second that you’re on the line, the scammers are making money from you, and you won’t know about it until your next bill.  All the scammers need is an autodialer and a premium rate number.

Black Friday deal. 99% off!!!

This Black Friday, you can get a whopping 99% off any help on our site.  Or at least you would if we actually charged for our help.  We at scamsurvivors.com offer free, non judgmental help and advice every day of the week, every week of the year (even Christmas, Black Friday and New Years’ Day) and that’ll never change.  A donation of a few bucks would help us pay our hosting bills of course, but we’re not going to treat you any different from anyone else, whether you donate or not.  Now that’s a real Black Friday bargain, right?

Why do we do this?

I was recently asked as part of a TV interview why I do this.  It’s not as if we get paid for it, yet we give up hours of our time each and every day to help others who’ve been scammed.  I’m sure I speak for all the volunteers on the site when I say that my answer was “because it’s the right thing to do”.  Why should we let the scammers get away with ruining lives simply because they want quick and easy money and don’t care what the consequences are.  We help people, but we also give them the tools and the knowledge to help themselves.  By getting the scammer details posted, people can save themselves before they get sucked into the scam.  We’re never going to eliminate scams, but we can make people aware of them and prevent them from getting scammed.  Firefly and I went to Germany to speak to the dating site industry at the iDate conference in September.  We didn’t have a company credit card to pay for those hotel rooms or to cover the travelling expenses.  All that came out of our own pockets.  Yet we still did it.  And we do it for the same reason our small group of volunteers give up their free time each and every day.  Because we’ve seen the damage scammers can do to people.  Because we know that the scammers are never going to stop.  Because it’s the right thing to do.

What’s God got to do with it?

Many scammers claim to be religious.  Many seem to got to church.  We’ve even seen the test questions and answers the scammers use have terms like “Question – God.  Answer – is great”.  Yet, they seem to conveniently forget the whole “Thou shalt not steal” bit in the Bible.  Let me try to explain the strange way that scammers can claim to be religious while stealing every penny a person has.  Here’s what we’ve been told.  Scammers do indeed to go church.  They pray (and boy, can they pray if you give them a chance!) and they’re perfectly happy to sing a few hymns with a little prompting.  But – and here’s where it gets strange – they believe that if God gives them a “good paying maga”, then he’s blessing them.  Basically, they believe that if God didn’t want them to scam, then He wouldn’t give them people to scam.  So their belief is “Thou shalt not steal.  Unless you can get away with it, then it’s fine”.  I must have been off ill the week they discussed that amendment to the 10 commandments in Sunday School.

Wow! Just – wow!

This one didn’t even kiss me before trying to f*ck me out of my money.

“send me 1000$, i will be with you this weekend and spend 7days…are you interested?”

I have of course replied.  More info if and when they write back.


It’s not just about the money, even if it is to the scammers.

Yes, scams cost people money.  Online scams are estimated to cost people over $110 billion dollars a year.  That’s a lot of money by any stretch of the imagination, but it’s not the whole story.  Blackmail scams for example, leave people in a perpetual state of fear.  People have taken their own lives because of it.  Romance scams steal a person’s self worth and trust in others.  People have ended up homeless.  They’ve even been jailed after cashing a fake cheque sent to them by the scammer.  Being scammed can lead to people being hit with another scam, called a recovery scam.  Just as they have no more to give, the scammer comes back as another person claiming they can get their money back for a fee.  Where do they go for this money they don’t have?  Sell the car?  Sell the house?  Steal from family members?  Go to a loan shark?  It’s not just money a person loses.  They can lose everything, including their life.

And THIS is why you don’t tell a scammer their details are on an antiscam site!

This from one of our blackmail forms:


She’s already mentioned on your website. Maybe I should have not, but I sent her this link

5 minutes after the end of te conversation, she changed her face book profile.


Tell a scammer they’re reported and of course they’re going to change the details.  Now, when they contact someone else, it’ll be with details that aren’t publicly available.  That means no way to warn people about the scammer and more people at risk.  It also messes with any law enforcement investigations into the scammer.  All because the person just HAD to tell the scammer they were reported!

How to delete a private video from YouTube.

One thing a blackmail scammer will do is upload the video to YouTube, show it to you and then make it private.  Public videos are easy to remove, and are usually gone within 10 minutes of a report being made.  Private videos can be removed, but the process is much longer.  Here’s how it’s done, taken from http://scamsurvivors.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=20&t=580&start=10


Hi everyone!

Last weekend the unthinkable happened to me – I was scammed on Chatroulette which followed onto Skype. I was recorded on webcam nude without my knowledge which was uploaded onto a porn website and YouTube. I was threatened and blackmailed if I didn’t do what the scammer asked (send money), they would send the list to all my of face book friends/family. Fortunately, I managed to get the video from the porn site off almost immediately because it was public by just clicking on the “report” button. However, the video on YouTube wouldn’t delete because there was no “flag” option to report the video as inappropriate (this is because it was set as PRIVATE on YouTube by the scammer). I was nervous that this private link would be sent to all my face book friends still. I know that this was very unlikely, but it is still in the back of your head and won’t go away.

Is this you? Do you want to know how to delete private YouTube videos uploaded by other users that was first thought as of impossible? Read on.

Step 1: Follow this link (Other Legal Issues) – http://support.google.com/youtube/bin/a … &ctx=topic

Step 2: Click the blue “Continue Button” another page will come up. Click “Continue” again.

Step 3: A page will come up listing topics on blue. See below:
Other Legal Issue (including Circumvention of Technological Measures)

Step 4: A legal form will be brought up. Fill out every single detail ACCURATELY with your real name in full. Have the private YouTube link ready that the blackmailer sent you and copy and paste it into the legal form where it says Video URL(s).

Step 5: This part is essentially important when filling out the rest of the form. Read carefully…
– In the section of the form where it says: Please cite the specific law that the content is allegedly violating, or the area of the law from which you believe your claim arises:
TYPE IN: Blackmail
– Please provide a hyperlink to the specific law: In this section Google “blackmail law”. Find a legal site that states what blackmail is in relation to your country. E.g. http://www.law.cornell.edu/uscode/text/ … chapter-41
– Please describe how content in question is allegedly violating this law: This is where you go into detail what happened. Tell YouTube you were blackmailed, threatened, how it’s affecting you, your family, how the video is inappropriate for content on youtube (nudity) and how you can’t “flag” the video because the user/blackmailer set the video as PRIVATE (IT IS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT YOU MENTION THIS OTHERWISE THEY WILL SEND YOU AN AUTOMATIC EMAIL TELLING YOU TO CLICK ON THE “FLAG” BUTTON). Also politely ask you would appreciate a personal response, not an automatic email.– Finish the rest of the form and click Submit.

Step 6: Wait patiently, breathe. Make sure you have completed ALL the steps in this topic on this forum:viewtopic.php?f=20&t=580
It took about 5 days for me to get a response from YouTube. They personally replied to me, apologised and removed the video completely. They reassured me that the video will know longer be available on YouTube and that it may take up to a couple of days for any thumbnail pictures to be completely removed from searches. You might even get a thank you from them…like I did. Not only did they delete my video which was set on private, but 25 other videos of other men like me who were scammed/blackmailed.

I really hope this guide helps other people who were scammed, and like me thought deleting private YouTube videos was impossible. You now know that it is possible!!! Goodluck!!!! Just make sure you learn your lesson. I can tell you, I certainly have!!! :oops: :D

Thank you to this website/forum and all the users and moderators who helped me through this difficult time. It is very much appreciated. Without you all, I wouldn’t have survived! I’m a survivor YAY 8-)